What if you were at a bar and could tell what girls in the room were single and looking for a man? That’d be pretty cool right? Imagine not ever having to spend 30 minutes flirting with some girl only to find out she has a boyfriend…
The trick is to look for the girls at the venue that are looking for you. How do you do that? Simple- girls looking for a man will rarely ever walk straight up to you and announce that they’re interest (that would be WAY too easy). Instead available women will put themselves strategically in your way and hope that you’ll say something. Here are some of the signs a woman is looking for YOU and inviting you to go over and say hi:
- Eye contact. Remember the importance of reading body language [LINK]? When you’re settled at a venue take a look around- make eye contact with as many people as you can across the room. An interested woman will hold your eye contact for 2-3 seconds, break it, and then look back at you. If she does this, or you notice her making eye contact with you even as you move around the venue, she’s inviting you over. Oblige her.
- Positioning herself closer to you. Many women will make a point to hang out around guys they’re interested in. This means she’ll grab a table right next to where you’re sitting, or elbow her way through the crowd and start dancing with her girlfriends next to you. To double up on the previous tip, if you see a girl follow you through the bar lock eyes with her for a few seconds, then just go say hi.
- Being loud or ridiculous. Sometimes a girl will make it obvious she wants you to say hi by loudly talking about something with a friend right next to you. I’ve had girls at a bar talk sit down next to me and start talking loudly about how they can’t find a good man in their lives. Guys, they didn’t come to a bar to whine about their relationships- that’s what Facebook status updates are for; they want you to know that they’re single and interested so pay heed.
Guys- how do you know if a girl is single at a bar? Ladies- what signals do you send to try and make it obvious you’re interested in a guy at the bar?